You’re Not the Problem — You’re the Trigger

By Colleeno Chippy

You’re Not the Problem — You’re the Trigger

By Colleeno Chippy







There are moments in life when people start reacting to you in ways that don’t make sense. Their energy shifts. Their emotions become unpredictable. Their attitudes change. And suddenly, you find yourself wondering, “What did I do?”


But here’s the truth you need to hold onto tightly:

You are not the problem — your growth is the trigger.


When you rise, you don’t just elevate yourself. You elevate the atmosphere. You expose what others have avoided. You highlight insecurities people have never dealt with. You awaken fears they’ve buried. You mirror the potential they abandoned. And for some people, that is deeply uncomfortable.


Your becoming irritates what they refuse to confront within themselves.


Your Light Makes Shadows Move


When someone is not ready to grow, the presence of someone who is growing can feel like pressure. And instead of taking responsibility for their feelings, they misplace them onto you. They blame you for storms they created, insecurities they nurtured, and emotions they refused to process.


Your consistency triggers their excuses.

Your faith triggers their doubt.

Your peace triggers their chaos.

Your strength triggers their weakness.

Your confidence triggers their fear.


You’re not doing anything wrong.

You’re doing things right.

And that is what stirs the reaction.



Your Elevation Interrupts Their Comfort Zone


People often prefer the version of you that didn’t challenge them. The version that didn’t require accountability. The version that stayed small, quiet, available, and easy to predict.


But once you start healing, growing, evolving, setting boundaries, and choosing yourself — you disrupt that comfort.


And suddenly:

• You’re “changing.”

• You’re “acting different.”

• You’re “distant.”

• You’re “too self righteous.”

• You’re “too focused on self.”

• You’re “cold.”


No, you’re not too anything.

You’re simply no longer who they benefited from.


People don’t always react to who you are.

They react to who they can no longer use you to be.



You Are Awakening a Higher Standard


Your growth challenges people to step up. And not everyone is willing to do that. Some will rise with you. Some will resent you. Some will distance themselves. And some will attempt to pull you back into the version of yourself that made them comfortable.


But you are not obligated to shrink for anyone.


Your life is leveling up.

Your spirit is maturing.

Your journey is unfolding.

Your purpose is calling.


And anyone who feels “triggered” by that is revealing their own emotional work — not yours.



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Conclusion


Stop apologizing for the shifts that your healing demanded. Stop questioning yourself because people respond to your elevation with discomfort. Stop carrying guilt for outgrowing things and people who chose not to grow with you.


You are not the problem — you are the awakening.

You are the mirror.

You are the reminder.

You are the catalyst.


And sometimes, your presence alone forces others to confront what they’ve avoided for years.


Keep rising.

Keep becoming.

Let the triggers fall where they may.

You were not chosen to stay small.


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Hi, I'm Colleeno Chippy – a Mom, a Writer/Author , entrepreneur, and believer in turning life’s toughest moments into stepping stones for healing and growth. Through this blog, I share powerful stories, motivational insights, and practical tools to help others rise above challenges and live purposefully. Whether it's embracing self-care, navigating grief, finding faith in dark moments, or simply learning to trust your journey.

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