The Weight of Other People’s Emotions

By Colleeno Chippy

The Weight of Other People’s Emotions

By Colleeno Chippy





There comes a point in your journey where you realize most of the pressure you feel does not come from your own life—it comes from the weight of other people’s emotions. Their reactions. Their moods. Their insecurities. Their sudden shifts from warm to cold. Their silence, their attitude, their outbursts, their assumptions—and the expectation that somehow you must carry it all.


But you cannot. And you should not.


As you grow, you begin to see clearly that many people are not struggling with you—they are struggling with themselves, and you simply became the closest place to project it. And because you are evolving, becoming more aware, more spiritually tuned, more grounded, and more intentional, these emotional storms around you feel louder than ever.


This is not coincidence. It’s alignment. Growth sharpens your sensitivity and reveals what you used to overlook.



They Shift, You Center


One of the hardest parts of elevation is watching how quickly people can swing from one emotional extreme to the next—and then try to make you responsible for their instability. One minute you’re their safe space; the next, you’re the villain in a story they created in their own mind.


It’s confusing. It’s draining. And if you’re not careful, it becomes a silent trap that convinces you to shrink to keep the peace.


But your job is not to regulate the emotions that others refuse to manage.

Your job is to stay grounded in who you are becoming.


When someone’s emotional turbulence rises, remind yourself:

“This has nothing to do with me. I do not own this storm.”



You Can Understand Their Pain Without Carrying It


Everyone is facing something right now. Some are fighting battles they’ve never spoken about. Some are holding fear, disappointment, frustration, or anxiety. Some feel like life is slipping away from them. And yes, some are hurting so deeply that they misplace that hurt onto anyone who feels safer than their reality.


But there is a difference between compassion and burden.


You can love people.

You can care for people.

You can pray for people.

You can support people.


But you cannot break yourself to hold them together.


Your spirit was never designed to be a dumping ground for the emotions others don’t want to process.



Faith Helps You Release What Fear Makes You Carry


Fear convinces you to hold onto the emotional weight of others because you don’t want to disappoint them, upset them, or lose them. Fear says, “If you don’t carry this, they’ll think you don’t care.”


But faith says, “If you carry this, you’ll lose yourself.”


Faith teaches you boundaries.

Faith teaches you peace.

Faith teaches you that you are allowed to say,

“I love you, but this is not mine.”


This is the spiritual maturity your elevation requires.


It is not selfish to protect your peace.

It is stewardship.

It is obedience.

It is survival.



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Conclusion


Let this season teach you something important:

You were not created to be the emotional container for every person who enters your life. Your growth is exposing what needs distance, what needs healing, and what no longer aligns with your spirit.


Release the weight that isn’t yours.

Return to your center.

Protect your peace.

And continue becoming the woman God is shaping you into.



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Hi, I'm Colleeno Chippy – a Mom, a Writer/Author , entrepreneur, and believer in turning life’s toughest moments into stepping stones for healing and growth. Through this blog, I share powerful stories, motivational insights, and practical tools to help others rise above challenges and live purposefully. Whether it's embracing self-care, navigating grief, finding faith in dark moments, or simply learning to trust your journey.

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